It can be easy in our world to look at the less than ideal circumstances that surround us and wonder whether God is saving the best for someone else. I became a Believer my freshman year of college. I had been dating my Christian boyfriend since my senior year of high school and by the time I finally realized what a gift his faith in the Lord was, and that I really desired to marry him, he had (wisely) become convinced that we needed to break up. It was devastating. I looked around at my other slim prospects for marriage at my 40,000 student, secular university and was not encouraged. Sunday mornings were often a desolate time in the cafeteria before I headed off to church by myself. Plus my heart was aching for the young man who had gone after God whole-heartedly and left me in the dust. But in God’s goodness to me, the sadness of my soul caused me to crack open my dusty Bible and begin reading and searching for comfort. I stumbled upon Psalm 84:11 which tells us “ For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor. No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”
In my immature, bare-bones faith, I clung to this promise like nothing else. It became the words that lifted my heart out of despair. God protects us. He gives us hope like a ray of sunshine. He blesses us with His favor. And the best part? He promises to withhold nothing good from those of us walking with Him! So I reasoned in my mind and heart that as long as I was seeking the Lord and following Him, He would give me only what was good for me. The young man I so desired to be with was not who I needed during those two years. I had to trust that for whatever reason, God deemed it good and right for me to be single for a time. He deemed it good and right for the aching in my soul to cause me to turn to Him for comfort and hope, instead of a relationship with a man. And whether He chose to bless me with marriage or singleness, Psalm 84:11 promised me that God wasn’t going to give me second best. He wasn’t hiding good gifts from me but was blessing me instead.
So when my daughter questioned me about possibly having to marry someone she doesn’t like, or doesn’t find attractive, I directed her to the promise of Psalm 84:11. God will give only good gifts to those who are following Him. And although those gifts might not be exactly what we would plan for ourselves, nonetheless they are precisely what we need. I think this promise will ensure that my daughter, if she does marry someday, will actually like her future husband and even find him attractive!
In God’s good providence, that young man who broke my heart came back into my life just before my senior year of college. We were married shortly after graduation. I look back at Psalm 84:11 as the verse that sustained me and gave me hope the 2 years while we were apart.
So for the single person waiting for a spouse, the woman longing for a positive sign on the pregnancy test, the new graduate waiting for his first job offer, or even the devastating news of a positive cancer test, those of us who are hoping in Christ and following His path can trust that He will not hide any good gift from us, but will instead lavish us with the blessings He deems fit for our lives.