- Recognize the ways that God has gifted you. He has an assignment for you that is something you can only receive from heaven. It is a gracious gift. Receive it from him, cherish it. Use the gifts He’s given you for His glory and the good of His people. And recognize that the assignment He’s given you is different than the assignment He has given to others. Stop grumbling about not having that person’s assignment, and get busy with the things He has put in front of you to do, what He’s equipped you to do. Fight against self-pity, knowing that you have meaningful work to do which God has gifted you to do. Also fight against pride, reminding yourself that the gifts you have are just that . . . they are gifts, and therefore not something you can take credit for.
- Recognize ways that God has gifted others and learn to rejoice in that. Observe evidences of God’s grace in the lives of others. When you see someone being hospitable, give praise to God for that. When you see someone who is particularly fruitful in evangelism, or someone who builds new relationships very easily and can help newcomers feel welcome in the church family, or someone who is very organized and can coordinate ministry efforts, or someone who is consistently patient or wise or kind, or someone who is good at teaching or discipleship or mercy ministries or counseling, praise God that He has granted these unique gifts to different individuals in order to build up the body and reach the lost.
When you’re tempted to be envious of a particular person because of a certain gift they have, pray for that person and look for ways to speak well of them. William Law, who lived in the 1700s, encourages us in this way, “If . . . someone is leaving you behind, and you are becoming jealous and embittered, keep praying that he may have success in the very matter where he is awakening your envy; and whether he is helped or not, one thing is sure, that your own soul will be cleansed and ennobled, that you will grow a little nearer to that stature of the Baptist.” (quoted by Kent Hughes, John, page 100). And we can add . . . nearer to the image of our Lord Jesus Christ, who humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross (Phil 2:3-11).